Who knew that our group of educators and clergy on this trip to Turkey would turn into Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson wannabes?
All we needed were an upbeat Turkish tempo pulsing through a town square, an encouraging Turkish host, and a festive mood, fostered by a delicious meal and wonderful company.
It’s official: We have become wedding crashers.
Summer is the traditional season for Turkish weddings, and Sundays are common days to tie the knot. It’s a warm and breezy Sunday afternoon when we arrive in Izmir, Turkey’s third-largest city situated on a sparkling blue bay on the Aegean coast.
Auspicious signs soon appear. As our bus pulls up to a stoplight, we look over to see in the car next to us a brand-new groom and bride, the latter dressed in a beautiful white dress with head scarf to match. There is much horn honking, waving and clapping as we congratulate the newlyweds with thumbs-up and smiles through the window.
Later, as we make our way on foot to the ferry for a leisurely ride across the bay, another car bearing bride and groom honks at us. Again, much waving the gesturing.
“Run after the car, and they’ll give you money,” Emre, a proud SMC alum and one of our guides, tells us.
Sure enough, we see that a young man has chased the car down, and money is passed to him through the window.
This is great fun. We like Turkish weddings already.
Marriage rituals are soon forgotten, however, as we settle down to yet another heavenly restaurant meal, hosted by two delightful Turkish couples.
We emerge from the restaurant to a crowded town square, pulsing with people and energy. And then we hear the music. Distinctly Turkish with a contagious beat. We must find out what it is.
One of our dinner hosts, Sezgin Sagir, a jovial man, guides us just a few yards and we come upon a large outdoor patio. Wedding guests are seated at long tables, but our eyes turn almost immediately to the dance floor, packed with women moving to a live band.
We hang back near the entrance as eyes turn on us: Who are these foreign tourists and what the heck are they doing here?
We balk but Sezgin is fearless. He ushers us boldly through the tables right up to the stage. It’s not long before Tina and Rosa are on the dance floor. The bride makes her way to the wedding crashers, welcoming us and dancing her heart out. The mother of the bride pulls Phyllis into the mix. Sezgin joins in, unconcerned that he is the only man on the floor. He tries to get us all to dance, and some of us join him.
The music is hot, drumbeat-driven, and we’re all swept up in the celebration.
It turns out wedding crashing in Turkey is not a risky venture. Turns out crashers are welcome at weddings throughout the Middle East, our scholar Gary tells us later.
But by the time we leave we don’t care. We are sweating with joy too much and still feeling a little like renegades.
Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson: Eat your hearts out.